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Yet most of the articles and features on this site have been BDSM oriented. Of course, with the loosening of the moral — and legal — strictures on all alternative lifestyles, the line between kink and BDSM has been blurred. Enter BaadMaster to attempt to clarify this confusion. As I see it — and this is simply my opinion — the difference is that BDSM has an implied power exchange; kink does not. It is really that simple.

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If one accepts my differentiation between kink and BDSM as simply that of the inclusion of a power exchange, a larger question presents itself — is there really such a thing as a power exchange? And that is the difference. It is now more complex. I think the actual power exchange is a twofold process; it is actually fluid. The first stage is the negotiation phase.

Here, in my opinion, the submissive holds the power. But once we get to the second stage — the actual power exchange — the dynamic changes. As does the progression from kink to BDSM. The degree of this power varies from couple to couple bdsm and kink triad to triad! Obviously, this is a lot more exciting than any vanilla relationship can be. But without a power exchange, kink is just that — kink. What I am about to write is from the opinion of a mostly Vanilla person.

So do have mercy on my soul if I am wrong on anything. What is it with you people having to categorize everything into what is superior, and inferior? And, no matter how kinky you are, order beats chaos any day of the week! How do you think the Catholics, and other Religions maintain such a strong choke hold over every bodies sexualalities and still do?

I mean in any, and every Kink scene, or Private Activity, someone is the Top, and someone is the Bottom. How could it be any other way? Someone has to be the giver, and the other the receiver in any Scene, or Private Activity. Most Scenes, and Activities involve some sort of Bondage, and bdsm and kink as soon as one is tied up, Power Exchange automatically begins.

Because the one who is bound is now trusting the other person to do what is agreed upon as now the Top could easily rape, harm, or even kill the Bottom if they wanted to, and the Bottom could do nothing about it.

Trust, and Power Exchange is the same thing.

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Why does it HAVE to be separated? Are most Fetishes NOT of a sexual nature? Even still, even if I am wrong on that, why is it the BDSM Communities business what consenting adults do to each other, and why, and bdsm and kink You can do that if you want, and no one else has the right to tell you NO. Any other attitude is snobbery, and is unacceptable, and inexcusable. But what do I know? I am just mostly a Vanilla. You fucking rule Isaac K. You put into words what has gone on in my mind and am still figuring out. Typically implying it is the woman just laying there.

This is not that time. The institution of it makes me gag…and not in a kinky way. Or…someone may have a partner in mind for you…. None is better than the other. We are all different. Sex is a way of connecting w each other on a vulnerable level yes? If you add another person you better be ready to connect or you can fuck off.

The only way I think you can fuck up sex is by making it one sided. If you feel alone….

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Frankly, it has scared tf out of me that this goes on. Sorry not fucking sorry at all. I just want to again say thank you so much for stating the obvious for people like me who sometimes just need to see my thoughts in the form of an opinion I agree with in order to resonate with my truth. You write wonderfully. If not. Hello, this conversation has intrigued me very much. Differing opinions is what life is all about.

The power exchange happens continually.

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I have always believed that in bdsm the power is with the sub, using one word the playing or scene stops no questions asked. I am thinking that is all discussed and agreed upon before the relationship is sealed verbally or by written contract. I saw the comments about the legality of the contract.

Most of the people I have talked with seem to be looking for sex rather than the idea of bdsm, particularly men. I have lived in two different areas, the first place I lived in, the bdsm world was for the most part, not looking for sex, they wanted bdsm and kink excitement and pain of the bdsm. There were very few that incorporated sex in the mix. The second area that I live in, they for the most part incorporate sex with bdsm. Now the passing years could for that, the first years were 15 years ago.

For me the bottom line for me is, whatever makes one happy, safe, consensual is what they feel it is. I will continue to find and seek out those that make bdsm and kink happy! Thanks for reading. I have to disagree with that. There is most definitely a power exchange and I like the attempt to differentiate between kink and BDSM in this manner. Greene when he, in summation, states that sex is definitely a part of the BDSM lifestyle. I CAN separate the two but in all honesty, I prefer the inclusion.

I believe the finding a way to form a better definition of kink, BDSM, and fetish would help calm both sides. It is clear that I state there IS such a thing as a power exchange; I have a live in slave so I obviously practise what I preach. The point was that there are many kinky and kinky vanillas who deny its existence.

Once again, my opinion only. The argument about power exchange has always seemed like a red herring to me. Of course there is no legal contract to make someone an actual slave. The issue is always simply one of consent preferably enthusiastic, risk aware, and informed. Obvious to whom? Certainly not to vanilla people!

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I appreciate the disclaimer that all this is just your opinion, but I feel this piece is misleading in numerous ways and some more thinking and different opinions need to be considered before such pieces see print. No offense intended. I always look forward to kinkweekly! I can only observe what I observe. There is no other conlcusion I can draw. But a hell of a lot do from what I see. I could be wrong I was wrong about Trump winning! And, as I state ad nauseum, this is only my opinion. BDSM actually stands for something: bondage, discipline, sadism, masochism.

It is specifically constructed around sexual practices and can therefore be defined and limits can be drawn around what acts can be performed consensually under that rubric. Trendy…trendy my ass! This concept has probably been around from the time the letters B,D,S,M were invented. Well, not that long. I jest! Trends actually never start that way. Was it exciting for me only in the knowledge that it made the D bdsm and kink.

I have lots to learn. Share this: Twitter Facebook Reddit. Like Kink Weekly? Support us on Patreon! Become a Patron! We love you! Visit here to enable ad-free browsing. Comments What I am about to write is from the opinion of a mostly Vanilla person. Playing is exciting. Reality is basic human rights and equality first and foremost. It is fluid, it is not preachy — and, most of all — it is not illegal.

Always play Safe Sane and Consensual.

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